There is no greater feeling than when you meet a sub that is perfect in every way. Playing seems to get ten times better and you can feel yourself becoming a better Dom each time you interact with her. The thing about subs, is that they aren’t always yours for good. Some of them are just there to play with you for a little while before moving on to other Doms. If you have this type of arrangement with some subs, that’s fine if you’re okay with it. However, sometimes you meet a sub that is so perfect; you want her to be yours for good. When this happens, doing something as simple as giving her an order to be yours just isn’t going to cut it. If you want your sub to go from temporary to permanent, you’re going to have to give her a reason.
Let Her Know You’re Interested
Believe it or not, your sub may want to have a permanent relationship with you, but she’ll refrain from mentioning it because she may think it’s something that you aren’t interested in. Many times, subs feel it is disrespectful to ask a Dom about permanent relationship, so they hold out and hope the Dom likes them enough to bring up the topic.
Whether you know if your temporary sub is interested or not, you can find out if she’s willing to becoming yours permanently just by asking a few questions. For instance, you can ask her what she thinks about permanent D/s relationships. If she seems to welcome the idea, this may be her way of telling you that she’s interested in becoming permanent with you.
You also want to make sure that you are giving your all when the two of you are playing. Think of it as multiple job interviews getting you closer and closer to landing you the job. If your sub is bored, restless, or displeased when you play, she’s not going to want to be in a permanent relationship with you. If she’s punished or rewarded too much, chances are she’s not going to feel like there is anything you can give her that she can’t find someplace else. Instead, focus on the things she loves when you’re playing, but don’t give it to her all at once. String it out, make her beg and crave for your touch, and she’ll eventually crave you.
Don’t Push Her
If you bring up the idea of becoming permanent and your sub is undecided, do not nag her about it. Do not try to tell her that she doesn’t know what she’s missing, and more importantly do not beg her. It makes you look weak, and a weak person does not make a good Dom.
If your temporary sub happens to decline your offer to become permanent, humbly accept her decision, but continue playing with her if she still wants it. Do not slack up in giving her what she wants and making her want more. She needs to be aware of what she will be missing if she ends things with you. More often than not, your sub will decide to become yours permanently because she isn’t going to want to lose the pleasure she experiences when she’s with you.