If you’re just getting started with age play, you may not know what to do. Often paired with a D/s relationship, age play typically sends the bottom back in mental time, so they adopt the mannerisms and interests of a child of the appropriate age. If your sub has just come to you with some age play desires you may not know how to please her. Here are some basics that will clear up what she wants, and give you ideas for what you can do for her.
Clearing up the Myth
There is a lot of concern that age play is actually a substitute for pedophilia, and that the Daddy (or even the little girl herself) is actually a pedophile. This is not true. Age play has nothing to do with the biological age being portrayed. It has everything to do with the little attempting to recreate an emotional state. It is the desire to feel a certain way that they felt at a certain age that allows it, and the Daddy is given a trusted, heightened role that’s not dissimilar to regular Domming. You’re creating a safe, trusting space for your sub.
Time Out with Your Little Girl
When you’re a Daddy, you should be taking your little girl out on fun bonding activities. If you don’t have kids of your own, it may be difficult to think of what to do. Go out someplace family oriented like Denny’s or iHop. Don’t worry about romantic, worry about atmosphere. Getting a pancake breakfast out is a real treat.
Places like zoos and aquariums are great for recapturing the wonder of childhood without anyone suspecting that this might be an age play event. Go to see children’s movies, as well. Lots of people still love Disney and Pixar even when they’re no longer children. Balance the joy the of first time exploration with the types of things that even adults still enjoy.
Gifts for Your Age Play Sweetheart
Keep things simple when it comes to presents. A soft blanket or a single beloved stuffed animal are the best gifts for early in the relationship. Art supplies are also good, as well as constructive toys like Legos. These allow your little girl to get lost in the magic of creation, and provide a meditative state that allows her to access the emotions that she’s striving for.
These gifts are also fairly small and cheap, so don’t be stingy. Don’t give a lot of them at once, but you can capitalize on the rush of joy that comes with Daddy coming home from work by also presenting her with a packet of crayons or some nice paper.
You want to be a good Dom and give your sub everything she needs. If what she needs is the comforting emotions and mental regression of age play, then you know what you have to do. Being a Daddy isn’t all that different from being a regular Dom, so keep in mind what you already know about comfort and protection and bring it to bear on making your sub the happiest little girl in the world.