Everyone has different things which turn them on. If you have a fetish, there is absolutely nothing wrong with it. In fact, most people have a fetish they like to explore from time to time. The main thing to remember is fetishes are not something you mention right off the bat. This is something better left for a conversation when you get to know the girl a little better. There are reasons to deviate from this from time to time, but you need to know when those times are in order to get the most out of the time you have together. Follow these suggestions and you have the best shot of being with someone at least willing to try your fetishes in order to please you.
When You Should Reveal Your Fetishes Immediately
If there is something which you are turned on by, which you simply cannot be happy in a relationship without, you should definitely make sure you are letting the girl know. Just be honest and let her know what your fetish is. Use an apologetic tone to let her know you understand this is awkward, but that you have to get it out of the way. Say something like, “look, I know we just met, but I have to tell you this, because it is important to me and my happiness in any relationship.” Go on to tell her what your fetish is and make it clear you understand if she is not into it or doesn’t want to continue talking. This way, you are sure any girl who keeps talking to you is interested in you and does not mind your fetish.
Tell Her at the Right Time
If you do not have to have your fetish as a main part of the relationship, you should find the right time to tell her what it is you like. This is best done after you get to know each other a little better and have already been at least a little bit intimate. If you can wait until after you have had sex the first time, this is a good idea. It lets her know you can do without, but this is another way she can turn you on. More than likely, she will be willing to explore your fetish as an adventure.
Why You Should Not Surprise a Girl with Fetishes
The last thing you want to do is just attempt your fetish on her without talking about it first. The kinkier the fetish is, the less likely it is she will want to be around you anymore if you have not talked about it previously. She does not want to turn around and find you wearing a dress if you never discussed your fetish for wearing dresses during sex. Surprises can be fun, but a fetish surprise is not something you should be considering. As long as you follow this advice, you will be fine and you may be sharing your fetish with her in no time.