There are lots of alternative dating sites out there for the sub seeking boots to lick. With the Internet being as it is, the issue isn’t with finding the sites, of course. It’s finding a Domme who would condescend to glance your way (or even notice your profile among all the other men begging at her doorstep). It’s very common on dating sites in general to have a bit of a skewed male to female ratio, but kink sites tend to have a much heavier tilt in the male population, and all of you are competing for the same few ladies. It can seem unfair, or might seem like it’s just to be expected, but don’t let it get you down. There are ways to make yourself stand out among the crowd as a stellar sub who any Domme would love to make her pet.
Make Yourself Unique
Of course, the best way to make yourself stand out among the faceless masses is to take steps to make yourself stand out. Make your Domme interested in you, your personality, and your interests. This will let her know exactly whose spine it is she’s snapping. This is especially important if you’re going for a long-term relationship or partnership – you need to get to know each other outside of the bedroom – but is also a big part of securing hookups and one night stands. The thing that separates the good and okay sessions from the really amazing ones is the emotional connection between you and your partner.
Show It Off
So, you are unique but how do you let Doms know? On alternative dating sites, the best way to show this is by putting work into your profile. Don’t just put up some bathroom mirror selfie and a brief sentence, “sub looking 4 femDom.” If you were going in for a job interview, do you think that would cut it?
Fill out your biography, fully, with proper spelling and grammar. You don’t want to sound like some 14-year-old boy babbling in chatspeak and screwing around on adult sites. Make note of your personal interests, as well as any special or interesting hobbies you have. Focus on kink, but don’t leave out the more innocuous stuff. It humanizes you, and makes people want to know more. For example: “my heart submits to many things: classical piano, well-polished black heels, and last year’s summer backpacking journey through the French countryside.”
For your profile photo, try looking through the various articles out there on how to take the best solo pics. Some general advice: use flattering lighting, make sure your face can be seen, and don’t overdo it on the photo editing. She’ll know. For the very dedicated kinkster, you may want to consider having some professional photos done, as the quality will definitely make Dommes stop to investigate. Search around on alternative lifestyle-geared sites and forums, and ask for reviews and recommendations for private photographers in your area. You’re sure to find someone with talent, a camera, and an open mind, to take pictures of you in your chains and finery.