If you have been browsing all of the different profiles on the site and you come across one which interests you, it is time to send her a message. This is a time to be careful. The message you send is going to say a lot about who you are and what it is you are interested in. You want to seem interested, but at the same time, you do not want to look desperate for a reply. You should mention something from her profile, say what it is you are looking for and ask a question. This will keep your message very brief and to the point. It will also help in making sure you have given the proper incentive to receive a reply. You will appreciate the response you get and she will appreciate your message being different from the thousands of others she gets.
Mention Something from Her Profile
When you are looking at her profile, look for something which truly interests you about the profile. This is a perfect thing to mention in the message. Try not to get too wrapped up in what you are saying or how you are saying it. Just mention you saw something on her profile which caught your interest and would like to talk to her a as result. Remember, brevity is of the utmost importance here. Say something like, “I noticed you are interested in butterflies, that’s cool!” She will see you have read her profile and you are not just pasting in a line you have sent to a thousand other women.
Tell Her What You Are Looking for
This is not a time to beat around the bush. Most women appreciate directness from a man. Tell her exactly what you are looking for. This should be in terms of the message you are sending, not what you want in life. You can say something like, “I just wanted to talk and get to know you.” It will let her know you are interested without saying you want to go on a date or have sex. Leave all the details of what you will do on a date to the time when you are actually going on the date. Now is the time to simply get to know her.
Ask a Question
To give her the proper incentive to reply to you, ask her a question. Don’t just ask her what she is doing or what is going on. You will be tossed in with a huge pile of messages asking the same questions. She is bored of answering those questions. Ask her something different she might be really excited to answer. If you noticed she likes butterflies, ask her what her favorite butterfly is. If you noticed she likes to travel, ask her what her favorite place to travel is. She will be happy to get a different question and she will get excited to start talking with you rather than all the other guys trying to talk to her.