There are boundaries you need to become familiar with if you are going to have any hope of successfully dating a woman. Among the boundaries you should never cross is to do anything too extravagant on the first or second date. The more you are willing to spend on your date, the more they will be wondering how often you do this kind of thing. After all, if you are willing to ask her to go to Hawaii with you as a second date, she will wonder just how many other women you have asked to do the same thing. Here are the biggest reasons why you should never overstep the boundaries of the second date if you have any intention of continuing to see the girl.
You Will Seem like a Cad
If you are willing to take a girl to Hawaii when you hardly even know her, you will come off as someone who does not respect women and is willing to do any off the wall thing to try to impress her. This does not bode well for you if you are trying to keep dating the woman, or you are trying to be intimate with her. She may even take you up on the offer just to enjoy the vacation and teach you a lesson as to why you should not buy such expensive gifts for people. At the heart of it, she will feel offended you are trying to obligate her into something by spending a lot of money you cannot get back.
You Will Seem Desperate
If you are spending a ton of money just to impress a girl, you may come off as being desperate. After all, you are not trying to impress her with who you are and the things you can do for her. You are trying to impress her with the money you have and your willingness to spend your money on her. No woman wants to feel as if they are someone who can be so easily impressed. They like to be impressed with the kind of person you are and the way you are going to treat them. If you cannot show you are a great guy, they may not want to know more.
You Will Seem Too Wild
Buying an expensive vacation is not a normal third date. It may make you look like someone completely out of control. After all, if you are willing to spend all this money on someone you don’t know, it leaves the question of what other crazy things you are likely to do. You don’t want her trying to figure out if you are potentially a killer or something like that. Just stick to a regular date which will impress her with the kind of person you are rather than scaring her. She will still like you even if you are not willing to spend thousands of dollars on a date. In fact, she will probably like you even more.