In a BDSM role play scenario, many people approach their role as an actor would. They choose a persona – a character or personality to play – and inhabit it for the duration of the play period. That character doesn’t necessarily need to be a perfect reflection of their normal personality, or maybe even resemble it at all. People often have many personalities that they can call upon as the mood and situation suits. The fatherly mentor, the stern teacher, and the suave and refined philosopher are all popular Dom characters that subs will swoon and beg for.
If you’re itching to add a touch of refinement and intelligence to your BDSM persona – or even to your own personality – there are many ways to go about it.
Read Up on the Finer Things in Life
Sorry, there’s no faking real intelligence. Your sub will be able to tell if you’re stumbling over your words when trying to remember the next line of that Shakespearean sonnet, or mispronounce “Versace.” She’ll be able to tell, and she’ll lose respect for you. And nothing makes a sub’s heart wander like a Dom she can’t respect.
Since you can’t fake it, the better thing is to make it come naturally. Study up. You’ve got the whole Internet at your fingertips. Wikipedia is an all right place to start, as it’ll let you get the overall gist of a complicated or wide-reaching topic. However, it’s only a place to start. You’ll want to wiki-walk while you read to expand the limits of your knowledge on the subject, and always read the original cited sources to make sure they’re legit. You don’t want to start parroting the thoughts of a thoroughly-discredited historian, especially when you’re in the presence of others who might be more informed on the topic than you are. Once you’re through with Wikipedia, don’t rule out a trip to the library (and maybe take your sub out for a walk with you). Try signing up for some courses at your local university. It might be more on the expensive side, but there’s nothing like being in the presence of experts to really beef up your brain.
Get Some Cultured Hobbies
While you don’t have to give up watching football on your big screen, you’ll want to add some hobbies that are more traditionally considered to be intellectual or cultured. Try learning an instrument like the violin or piano. Having your sub swooning at your feet while you play Mozart can be a great part of any scenario. Instruments generally require an investment and may require professional tutoring if you want to advance past the “YouTube tutorial” level, but they can be an enjoying hobby even outside the world of kink. If you want tangible proof of your cultured hobbies, try getting into a more physical hobby like painting, sculpting, or even cooking. These too require professional classes to hone your skills to expert levels, but once they’re over and done with, you’ll have a fun and thoroughly unique hobby to make your sub go starry-eyed.