Honesty is said to be the best policy, but there are some times when it’s simply not wanted. The average man knows enough not to tell her she looks fat in those jeans. What the average man doesn’t know is that her appearance isn’t the only place she’s looking for false encouragement. Fib in these areas and you’ll always be on her good side.
1. You Agree with Her about Her Family
Some women love their families. Some women hate their families. Some women don’t seem to have a good reason to feel either way. Women whose families are full of criminals and liars often adore their relatives. Sometimes a woman’s family is guilty of nothing worse than being slightly annoying, but she can’t stand be around them for more than a day. It’s not important how she feels about her family or why she feels that way. The only important thing is that you agree with her. Swallow your urge to play devil’s advocate and agree. Your life will be much easier than if you dared to defend your girlfriend’s mother over her.
2. She’s a Good Matchmaker
There’s more to being a matchmaker than just matching up single people. In her mind she’s a master of the human soul. She knows what sort of people clash and which don’t. She knows her friends so well that she can instantly pick out if the relationship is going to work or not. She understands about love.
Even if your girlfriend has never matched up a couple who lasted more than a month tell her that she’s a good matchmaker. This builds her confidence in her own ability to see what love is, and this builds her confidence in the relationship she has with you. Start telling her that she doesn’t know how to pick them, and see if she changes her mind about picking you.
3. She’s a Good Cook
It doesn’t matter that you do almost all the cooking when you two eat in. It doesn’t matter that her idea of “cooking” is to mix two different kinds of canned soup together and serve it with a slice of pre sliced bread. She wants to hear that she’s a good cook. Though cooking has been seen as women’s work for centuries, recent generations have broken away from that. However, she still harbors all that pressure and guilt, so she wants to think that if she tried she could be a good chef. Just allow her to believe so. Nothing good will ever come out of telling a woman that you don’t like her food.
Some lies are told out of malice, and some are told out of kindness. These white lies should be told out of a desire to get along. Contradicting her on any of these points isn’t going to change her perception of herself. She’s only going to see you in a different light. So relax, don’t fight it, and tell her what she wants to hear. You’ll be glad that you did.