If you have noticed that lately you have grown sick and tired of your boring vanilla sex life, it may be time for a change. However, many people find that jumping into the extreme stuff after having the typical sex life can be a bit too intense. We can understand if you feel this way. Going from a night of missionary sex to bondage and breath-play can be a huge hurdle for many newcomers. When you want to try new things, but don’t want to risk mentally scarring yourself with something you aren’t ready for, you can start from the bottom and work yourself up. Two sexy kinks we have found to be great for beginners are spanking and hair pulling.
If your lady is okay with it, bring a bit of spanking into the bedroom. While spanking is definitely a kink, it is one of those kinks that are so mild that it doesn’t typically startle the people experimenting with it.
When you are ready to start spanking your lady, the easiest position we’ve found to be in is doggy-style. While she is on her hands and knees, don’t hesitate to spank her ass a few times. You will want to watch her response to decide whether or not you should increase the pressure of how hard you spank her. Some women who aren’t otherwise fans of pain seem to enjoy being spanked, even when it is pretty hard.
When you begin spanking her, don’t just keep hitting her over and over again. Give her a reprieve. Lean forward and growl softly into her ear and ask her if she likes it. You can even rub, kiss, or lick the area you have just spanked before spanking her again.
Add in Some Hair Pulling
Adding hair pulling to your spanking brings in an even hotter edge to your new kink experiment. Lace your fingers through her hair and tug her head backward. You can use this position to hold her hair like reigns while you slam back and forth inside her. If she really loves it, pull her up until she’s kneeling on her knees, which allows for a new position and a new angle.
You might also want to try forcing her head down while you are still gripping her hair. This position helps to raise her hips more, which allows for deeper penetration. If you can manage it, you can use your free hand to spank her a couple of times, which gives her even more pleasure.
Spanking and hair pulling seem to go hand in hand with dirty talk. If you always wanted to try it, feel free to give it a shot. Whether you say something she finds hot or silly, it probably won’t matter because she’ll be too busy shouting and moaning to actually understand what you’re thinking. These types of kinks work great if you are interested in dominating your lady, but aren’t quite sure if you want to bother with becoming a Dom or learning about the BDSM lifestyle.
After you’ve finished for the night, make sure to ask her what she thought about it and then discuss other things the two of you could do to each other to keep adding spice to your sex life.