Flings are the great middle ground of relationships, with more passion and interest than friends with benefits, but longer than one night stands. A good fling has to be sex fueled but fun, flirty, and something you can brag about to friends. There are a lot of things that can lead to a fling, but the most satisfying of them is the mutual exploration of a shared set of kinks.
Kinks Keep the Focus on Sex
Emotions are the number one reason why friend with benefits situations don’t work out. She gets a crush, and before you know it you’re the man who took advantage of her instead of someone getting some mutual relaxation. When you base the fling off kinks you always know where you stand. You and she are into this for a mutual love of spanking, and there’s no way that she can claim that wasn’t clear.
Focusing on sex also means that you’re not focusing on other things. The things that might bother you about her don’t matter so much. If she’s got an annoying laugh, add a ball gag to your bondage game. It’s easy to overlook her flaws if she’s giving you what no one else does.
The Attraction Isn’t Situational
A cute coworker is often only cute because she’s a coworker. Get her out of the office and you’re stuck with a Plain Jane all evening. Your kinky hook up, on the other hand, will always be a kinky hook up. She will never be less attractive than the base level of your kink. If she’s got the perfect feet, it won’t matter whether the two of you are hitting a bar, the dance floor, or you’re just heading straight from work to her place to knock sexy, thigh high boots: she’ll always have what you want.
If a woman is kinky in one way, odds are that she’s also kinky in lots of other ways. Try out as many of your impulses and kinks as you like, and enjoy the variation of sexual experiences that you can have with one person.
Kinks Have a Natural Expiration Date
Once you’ve tried all the kinks that you and your fling have in common, sooner or later it’s going to be time to close up shop. A lot of kinks are like an itch you just can’t scratch. Once you have, you’re ready to move on. So enjoy your first few weeks with your new fling, because sooner or later you’re going to find your appetite for those specific kinks, activities, and person to wane. You’ll be satisfied and ready to move on to new, fresh territory.
So the next time you hear that a particular woman likes some kinky things, don’t be quick to dismiss her. Think about whether or not that might be something you want, and then go in for the kill. A kinkster makes for a great fling thanks to her open mind, natural way of knowing it is time to move on, and the ever precious fact that she keeps the focus totally on sex.