If you only hang out with other single men, it may be the reason you haven’t found someone yet. Single men are the great enablers of the world. They make excuses for you. They make you feel like there just aren’t any good women out there. They may also be holding you back. Passively or actively, you may have to distance yourself from your buddies if you want to get laid.
Your Friends Encourage Bad Habits
You wouldn’t treat a woman the same way you treat your best friend. You wouldn’t lounge around the house with a woman the same way your lounge around with the guys. These are obvious facts that every man should know, but old habits die hard. If you’re used to the only company you have being a guy who can belch louder than you, you’re probably not going to work hard to keep up your best manners. This sort of sloppiness is hard to break when you’re around a woman, but the guys think it’s hilarious.
A single man might want a relationship, but when he gets in a group with his friends something changes. There’s a lot of fun to be had in a “no girls allowed” group of single guys, but sooner or later you have to break yourself away from that. You don’t want to be “no girls allowed” for the rest of your life. You don’t even want that for the rest of this weekend. So start taking a break from the single’s only sausage fests and incorporate activities where you can meet women instead.
You Share the Same Flaws
It’s said that each person is a meld of their five closest friends. As you spend time with someone, you adopt their habits and points of view. This is a natural thing that leads many people to success and to failure. The key is who you make the five closest friends in your life.
Take a hard look at your single friends. If you had to be really honest, you would say that you know why they’re single. One guy can’t manage his money, one is too selfish, and one is too shy. You could list them all off one by one. Think about how that applies to you. If these are the closest people in your life, their pros and cons are both rubbing off on you. Evaluate your life honestly and see if maybe you wouldn’t be better off easing off some of these friendships.
It can be hard to meet women if all of your friends are already paired up as well. Couples gravitate towards couple activities, and you find it harder to fit in at those parties or with those people. You need to create a balance in your social circle. The men you know who have girlfriends or wives clearly have the qualities you need to get a woman. Absorb those traits from them. The single men in your group have the enthusiasm and the single activities to help you meet women in person and to keep your spirits up while you look. You don’t want to cut your single friends out of your life. You just want to make sure that they don’t have too much of a hold over you.