Keeping It Balanced – Partnership & Fetishism
Many fetishes require more than one person.
It’s extremely important to recognize the role that other people have in the development and execution of your fetish. For example, it’s highly important that you know which people, if any in specific, you need in order to make your fetish a reality on a daily basis.
Because many fetishes require a helping hand, it’s important to find a partner for many practicing fetishists. This facilitates not only the need that many people innately have for companionship and a relationship, but also the actual practice of the kink itself.
Many fetishes require the involvement of more than two people.
If you are one of the people who has a fetish that requires at least two people on hand to help you with it, you may find this more difficult to do. You want to make certain that you don’t put yourself, your relationship, or your partner at any kind of risk. It is always good to communicate with other fetishists you meet online first, so that everyone is on the same page.
A supporting partner is the most important tool you have, and not in an objectified way.
A partner can be not only a willing participant in fetish play, but the push you need to stay grounded while you’re playing as well. You want to be able to reach for the stars and forget certain ugly truths of life while you’re playing; having a partner keeping an eye on things can frequently be the solid foundation you need to pull this off.
Partners are not always necessary to every level of fetishism.
It’s important to know what level your fetish is. There are three particular levels, when we’re talking about strength:
This lowest-grade fetish, the most common, ranks it as desirous for an enhancement to sex. It’s something fun to do, and you may very much enjoy it, but it doesn’t dominate your sexual experience or life.
The next-higher fetish is the person-unrelated fetish. In this case, the fetishist does not need a partner in order to get off, only the object.
The highest level of fetish is obsession. An obsessive fetishist can only get off when the fetish is involved.
If you have one of the level 1 fetish, no matter what it is, then your fetish will likely cause you no great hardship in terms of finding or keeping a sexual or romantic partner.
On the other hand, fetish levels 2 and 3 are somewhat different. Level 2 can often alienate partners. They can feel replaced, substituted by the fetishist for their preferred object or action. If they feel alienated or left out of your life, and sometimes they can feel replaced.
Level 3 can cut the partner out completely. It can be very difficult for someone with a level 3 fetish to create or maintain any sort of relationship. If you get into a relationship with a person who claims to be a fetishist, it’s best to find out how involved they are in their fetish before making any long-term plans.
This can save you both a lot of stress later.
While having a partner can be a good and healthy thing, you have to make sure that the relationship is better than being alone, for both of you. Otherwise, you won’t be able to get what you want. Practicing fetish in a relationship is all well and good; you just have to make sure there’s still a relationship later.